The Meaning of Crawling

During my midwifery training, we considered a baby’s 9-month birthday to be the end of a “second gestation”, a time of major transition in the mother-child relationship. Pregnancy and birth were valuable metaphors to normalize the intensity of change many mothers experience around this time. As a baby begins to move outwards into the world,…Continue Reading

Thoughts on Attachment Parenting

As a follow up to my previous article, I want to add my voice to the great internet Attachment Parenting debate. Attachment Parenting (AP) is a parenting style popularized in the 1990s by Dr. William Sears. I was drawn to AP long before I became a mother, for much the same reasons it has taken…Continue Reading

Attachment in America

Note: “attachment” in this article refers to attachment theory, not the Attachment Parenting style. By four months old, “the baby begins to tell people apart and lets them know who she prefers. With those closest to her… patterns of mutual interaction meet her need for intimacy. She is falling in love. Strong emotional ties form…Continue Reading

Mindful Parenting

I have been blessed with a flourishing mindfulness practice for many years. As a therapist providing mindfulness-based treatment, I was constantly reminded of how to access mindful presence, and prompted to walk my talk by doing so. It has served me well. Though mindfulness is explicitly not about seeking a certain state of mind, its…Continue Reading

Language Magic

I have been fascinated by language development since long before I was a mother. It is a window into the extraordinary flexibility and plasticity of the infant brain – you can almost see the neurons firing as they master new words.  From birth to three years old, the brain makes 700 new synaptic connections per…Continue Reading

“Emotional Sponges”: Rupture and Repair

“Babies are emotional sponges.” I can’t remember when I first heard that said, but it rings so true.  The words we currently say to Dani are just jumble of sounds and rhythm, yet we are communicating with her constantly. We express our emotional state non-verbally by tone, facial expression, posture, movement, touch and the capacity…Continue Reading